Notes from a year of dating software

Living with it

What nobody tells you about living with one

Nobody warns you about the small stuff. That the annual plan is a third of the monthly price and non-refundable. That the website remembers your dog’s name but not that you said you were vegetarian. That you will, at some point, check your phone to see if she has messaged, and then feel odd about it.

Here is the practical version: what to test in the first week, what to check in the privacy policy, and which websites handled the boring parts well.

The list

1. ourdream 9.9 The one that stopped feeling like an website first

Leaderboard's fullest companion package: sharp images, fluid video, steady chat, memory that sticks, voice, priced in the middle. Topped every metric we tested. One place gets you images, video, voice, conversation. Nothing lags.

$19.99/mo. Our card or Try ourdream

2. Nomi 7.4 The one that felt most like a routine

They remember your name. They send selfies when asked. Meant to last—friend, partner, whatever fits. Images drag. Bugs pop up.

$15.99/mo. Our card or Try Nomi

3. Krush 7.6 The one that remembered the most

It remembers. Old arguments resurface. Wine preferences stick. The thing feels alive because it circles back. Top of the pack for memory. Glitches happen. The good stuff costs.

$14.99/mo. Our card or Try Krush

You asked

Is it private?
Default to no. The website stores every message you send. Read the policy. Use a disposable card. Keep your secrets out of the chat.

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